Books are not made of words and pages.
They are made of hopes, dreams, and possibilities.
Books are not made of words and pages.
They are made of hopes, dreams, and possibilities.
Everyone has dreams and aspirations, places that we want to be physically, mentally, or spiritually that wrap themselves up into this thing called a goal. We all have different degrees of commitment to these goals, and different levels of likelihood in achieving them. For example a 90 year old man may have a dream of becoming a NASA pilot, but this is probably not going to happen in reality. However, a 5 year old kid who is passionate about planes and dreams of being an airline pilot, has every chance of achieving this with the right level of determination, and the mental/ physical capability to back it up. In other words, your goal has to be realistic.
I asked myself what my goals were professionally and personally, and whether I had clearly defined them.
Ok, yes I had.
Then I asked myself how determined I was to achieve this goal, and how likely attainment was to happen.
Ok, yes very determined, and yes, I do believe it is very likely to happen. It was inevitable even.
I found that the more that I thought about it, the more impossible failure seemed.
I have always thought of myself as a person who drifted through life, but I realised that in fact I did not, I simply moved slowly, and with a ‘practical’ and ‘realistic’ lens towards what I wanted to achieve. I was surprised to find that I felt full commitment and determination to achieving my dreams.
So why was I feeling so confident?
If you have never heard of the business motivation model, then it’s something worth looking up. This paper is on the ‘heavy side’ but I will show you some of the high-level principles here which are pretty quick and easy to apply.
There are 4 Major steps to set yourself up for success in achieving your dreams, and I promise these are super easy to do 🙂
STEP 1: So what is the business motivation model and how does it help us to achieve our dreams?
Well it all centres around what you want to be i.e. your vision or end goal.
Feeding into this is your mission. The mission is the means to your end.
In other words the mission is the shift that needs to happen to take you from where you are now to where you want to be.
So a vision or end state might be
<Be a top 100 author in my sub-genre>
<Be the best pizza company in town>
A mission or means to achieve this might be
<Sell>< my books>< on Amazon>
<Action> <Product or Service><Market or customer>
See, I told you it was easy 🙂
Now, you are probably thinking, OK that doesn’t help me very much, it’s pretty obvious I am not going to be a top 100 author unless a sell some books.
So this is where we further break the vision and mission down into high level strategies, and goals.
STEP 2: The strategies sit under your vision. They feed up into it. For example to be a top 100 author I will need:
If I am going to be a successful writer, I am going to need all of these things for certain. Your strategies stay non specific, or non measurable i.e. they are just a theme we use to base our goals around.
STEP 3: Your goals, sit under you mission, they are measurable, and they are aligned to our strategic themes. This is where we start to see something tangible. The moment you put some numbers against it, you have something to aim at. Some example goals could be:
These are all measurable things, tangible things, and clearly defined things.
STEP 4: If you want to, you can break these high level goals down into shorter term or focus goals.
For example if you have a goal to complete a writing course, then you may break this down into the following focus goals:
There is something quite magical about ticking these short-term goals off. Especially when you are aiming to do something as slow moving and long term as becoming a published author. But with any goal you have in life, it is really important to break-up the bigger task into manageable chunks, so you have the opportunity to stop and appreciate how far you have come at each step along the way.
People who set short term focus goals are much more likely to achieve their high-level goals. Ultimately, they achieve their vision. They stay motivated!
Now, we are getting somewhere! And by now you are probably thinking, why don’t I just get right into setting my goals and focus goals? Why do I need all this vision, mission and strategy stuff.
Well the reason is:
As we move through our journey towards achieving our dreams it is important that we make constant checks along the way to ensure we are still on track, and that we are still heading where we intend to. Adjusting the course is easy if you spot when you are drifting off it early on.
SMART Goals – setting up for success
Each goals (whether the high level or shorter term focus goal) should be SMART. Which stand for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant/realistic and Time constrained.
By <DD/MM/YY> I will <do x>
My personal feeling is that if you know what you want to achieve, and you know how to break this down into steps along the way, and you are realistic, you will ALWAYS achieve you ultimate vision.
If you are not a great planner, then this is a really simple way to set yourself up for success.
You can take this further by looking at how you allocate time to each of the goals so you get the right mix of effort against them i.e. it is really easy to loose yourself in social media to the detriment of actual writing! I know busy authors who keep a tight schedule to make sure they give each of their strategies the right amount of time. I will look at this in the next post.
Historically, it was reported that only 25% of the population was introvert. Focus has shifted in recent years and it is now believed the proportion of introvert/ extrovert is much closer to 50%.
Many people consciously or subconsciously smother introvert tendencies, particularly in western cultures where extroverts are still seen as the ‘preferred’ personality style. Learning to be content with your personality, and to accept it is a huge part of becoming the happiest and the greatest version of you.
I feel very fortunate to have a father who is an introvert, and understands exactly what I, as another introvert, needs from a parent-offspring relationship. There is no-one, husband excepted, that I would rather talk to than my father. There are many reasons for this, but an important one would be my father’s natural style of active listening. It’s not just about the listening though, it’s about another person who is fascinated by the same things. We talk via Skype in bursts that can be anything from 5 mins to an hour, and neither of us is offended if we decide on any day to cut it short, and yet we frequently do find ourselves delving into topics that interest us for a considerable length of time.
For my father and I, people are often our focus, their reactions, their inexplicable acts, their emotions or lack of them. People, and every nuance of what makes them tick, fascinate us. We both also feel things very deeply, whether it is harsh words, or an act of kindness, and for this reason too much interaction with others can exhaust us, at which point we retreat into our hermit shell.
The hermit moment is where we shut down the active listing, and usually results in the person with us asking ‘Are you alright? Have I done something wrong? Why are you not talking to me?’, which is amusing given both myself and my father rarely dominate the conversation. Sometimes we just feel the need to be quiet and to sink back inside our own heads. When we reach overload and switch off, people immediately miss our rapt and unobtrusive attention.
In social situations, I sit back and allow others to speak, interjecting only occasionally with an observation that is usually related to the other person and in particular their thoughts, feeling, or emotions that they often don’t even realise for themselves. I spend long amounts of time analysing conversations after trying to unpick every detail, and understand what it means. I feel a sense of genuine empathy with their struggles or delight in their successes, and feel their happiness or sadness like a reflection in myself. I think about how I would feel if their situation was happening to me, and then multiply this by how much I care about the person I am talking to—like an emotional amplifier. For a moment it is as if I do not exist, and I am pulled completely into their world.
Experiencing this emotional avalanche from interactions with other people is exhausting, which is why I head back to hermit-land, and it is one of the reasons I am fiercely protective of my solitude.
So being an active listener is obviously a great virtue, so what’s the downside?
Well, unfortunately we are very selective, and allow only a few carefully considered individuals to reach the coveted status of capturing our interest. Most people don’t, and we are not very good at pretending to be interested in what someone is saying if it does not interest at all. In fact we would probably come across at best as distant, or aloof. Others may even see out lack of interaction as just plain rude.
To us, false smiles, or worse pretending to be interested in someone, is the hight of hypocrisy, and to attempt it would make us feel a fake and a fraud. Conversely, there is nothing we like less than someone who shows less than genuine interest in us. We can spot such manoeuvres from a mile and instantly try to extract or distance ourselves from person or persons involved.
Being an introvert and a naturally active listener, can be a great asset in life. It is also something that can be transferred to a work situation as long as you are doing something that you love.
Practicing extending the circle, and allowing others into that select inner group is also one of my focuses, and especially important to an introvert who would naturally shy away from new experiences and people. We should always allow ourselves an opportunity to meet new people with new ideas, and I love the thought that there are new people I am yet to meet, who may turn out to be a great and lifelong friend.
I cannot imagine a life without books, or the modern take on books…my trusty kindle. When we sit down with our books the world around us fades away. We are pulled into another time and place, where our imagination turns the ordinary into the extraordinary.
As a child we are taught that trolls live under bridges waiting to gobble up unwary travellers, we are taught that a frog can be turned into a prince with a kiss, and we are taught that the ugly monster under our bed may want nothing more than to borrow our book.
As an adult our taste can shift away from the fantastical, and we seek something much more diverse from the books we read. We can enjoy anything from a biography that lets us see through the lens of a real persons life, to a fantasy novel not so different from some of the stories we enjoyed as a child.
The books we read can make us laugh or cry. They can shock us, or surprise us. They can take us for a wild ride.
In the world without imagination, there are no monsters under our bed. I guess some people prefer that simple, unfettered life.
But I’m planning to spend a lot more time, in a place where even monsters read.
Sometimes a book is the only thing that can make the world right again.
As someone who writes, I think it is fair to say that I have a lot of time for books. I am going through some training at work at the moment, and there is an awful lot of talking and discussing involved in this training. But I have also been lucky to be provide with a recommended selection of books to choose from within my areas of focus, and I am actually loving the opportunity to graze these at my own pace in my own time.
I guess when we are in need of a boost in life, to reset our expectations, direction, expand our knowledge, or simply refresh ourselves by an escape from the hum-drum routine, a book is the only vice you need.
All books should come with a warning…Reading is seriously good for your health!
Writers are simple creatures, we really are. Give us a small, space, make it quiet or noisy depending on our preference, throw in food and beverages every now and then, and we are happy.
A computer and a note pad are always useful as we need something to jot ideas down on…and to write on.
When I’m writing, I forget about everything. In fact, I really hate it when something ‘real life’ important rears its ugly head and demands my attention.
I sometimes worry about myself!
But mostly I worry about writing.
I have two lives. The real one and the imaginary one, and sometimes that line can get real blurry. You find yourself saying things your character might say, and then you wonder whether you are losing yourself inside your character, or if your self is being lost inside the character.
I find it particularly disturbing when I start to sound like the male characters from my book. Does this mean I write feminine male characters?
Do I need to seek counseling?
And what the heck does it matter?
Is there even anything even separating the old stereotypes of men and woman anymore?
Maybe it’s good to mix it up!
Sometimes my mind goes off on a wild ramble…
I forget about real people when I write, but every now and then they pop up and remind me, and it takes me a few minutes to center myself.
I don’t forget about my cats…well one of them anyway because he is extremely noisy and lets me know if there are insufficient quantities of bickies in his bowl.
And writing is such a long process, and terribly frustrating. It feels like every little stage takes forever and it makes you so impatient, and being impatient is not conducive to quality writing…and then you end up editing it to death and feeling even more impatient and frustrated!
But every now and then you write a sentence or a paragraph, and it is so damn beautiful that you wonder how the heck you dragged that out of the sorry ramble that your tapping fingers produced during the other 99% of the time.
You can get lost in that sentence, find yourself re-reading it and admiring it like you’ve just discovered you really do have a soul.
The rest of your draft is still a shocking mess, but you’re a writer, so you focus on the positives.
And then there are other writers. Those appalling folks who keep writing good books that you can’t help but dip into the moment they come out. You’ve written 200 words today, you should reward that effort by reading a couple of chapters from your favorite author’s new book!
There’s a flaw in this plan because no one ever just reads a chapter. Nope, that’s not going to happen.
So in answer to the question, what do writers think about…everything and anything…we walk among you and yet we are not really present.
Don’t hate us, we can’t help it. If you want to know what really goes on inside our head, you’ll have to buy our books 😉
Happy reading and writing 🙂
Yes, I admit this is a bit of a provocative statement, and sweeping, but I wanted to address an argument I was having with my Husband.
And why not use the internet? Nothing like airing your domestic disharmony in public!
This isn’t a new argument, we have been over it a few times and he’s just not seeing my point of view, even though it’s about writing and I’m a writer and he’s not! So I thought I would get the writing community to wade in on my end. Just in case there is any confusion here, I am a woman and it’s a given that I am always right 😉 Right?
To give some context for this, my husband is an extremely logical person…and I’m, ah, not. I mean I can be logical sometimes, but mostly I take leaps and jump from events to conclusions. I don’t want to get into the nuances of logic v emotion. But in short, I’m comfortable that there isn’t a ‘plan’ or even a ‘logical’ progression to the way a story plays out.
So what was this burning issue provoking domestic disharmony?
Well, it’s George R.R. Martin’s fault.
I’m really hoping most of you are at least familiar with GoT, but in case you are not…there is a character called ‘Hodor’ and all Hodor says for many seasons is ‘Hodor’, doesn’t matter what folks say to him, situation, stress levels or emotional state, all he says is ‘Hodor’. I think it is season five or six where we discover why this is.
My Husband: That is so amazing, George R.R Martin must have planned this from the start.
Me: I seriously doubt it.
Now, it’s quite possible he did plan it…I’m open to this option. Writers do plan stuff. I plan stuff, but it’s more of a fuzzy framework in which to play, and I change my mind as I go, and add bits, and I blatantly ignore said framework when a new, more interesting, idea pops up.
And I make connections to old seemingly insignificant details all the time.
It’s one of the reasons I think colorful, if somewhat inane details, are so important to a book, because they facilitate connections later down the track. I am always doing this, some minor detail I wrote right at the start will suddenly present itself as a plot twist. It’s part of the process and it’s the way writer’s brains work.
I’m sure someone has asked George R.R. Martin if Hodor was planned right from the start, and perhaps he was. My argument isn’t about whether or not Hodor would always ‘hold a door’ from the moment he arrived on the pages of that draft all those moons ago. But it is possible that he wasn’t, and it is my firm opinion that writers do take strange quirks and details and repurpose them later.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Have you ever planned a major twist right from the very start?
Have you ever stumbled across a plot twist as you were writing, pulling in an early event or detail and repurposing it towards the end?
Happy reading and writing 🙂
…and for those who want the answer to the burning did he / didn’t he question.
it will be so clear
what you thought
was the end,
was just the beginning.
Some doors are hidden
until you are ready
to open them.
I have been writing for so long now that it is hard to remember where I started, but writing does start somewhere—it starts with a daydream.
Daydreaming is awesome.
There is something wonderfully fresh about a new daydream. When the blank space opens up to allow the industry of imagination to begin. The ideas that take hold can go in many directions.
When it starts you have no preconceived ideas or constraints.
You know it’s the one
Life is full of daydreams.
Some are better than others. Some are worthy of a second look.
You know it’s the one when your conscious and subconscious keep coming back for another visit.
You explore it, you examine it. After a while you just know it’s right.
You have to start somewhere
When you find a new story, it is so hard to know where to begin.
Do you plan? Plough right in? Decide the end? Character profiles?
Finding your flow.
After a while you stop worrying about the plan, the beginning, the ending, your characters, because they all just sort themselves out.
You strap in, get ready, and prepare to enjoy the ride.